Yesterday I introduced a list of things that every women desires in her man. I speak from a man’s perspective, but only after being married for thirty-three years.

As we look at the next five items on the list, let’s not forget the reason they matter—because we desire an exciting, growing romance with our wives, centered on God. This is under our control, gentlemen.

We make the difference in our families as we commit to our marriages. It’s the natural outcome as we focus our attention on our wives and children. We need to be the leaders God has called us to be or we can’t expect to have the kind of marriage God desires for us—and that would be tragic.

That understood, the last five items are as follows:

6. They want a man who listens.

It is disrespectful for us to refuse to listen to our wives, but it is Biblical to show them that respect. I Peter 3:7 says this clearly,

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

7. They want a man who is self-confident.

When a man spends time in God’s Word, his character develops, his confidence is assured, and his purpose is focused. This shows in ways that cannot be explained except to say that others see Christ in him. This is an honor bestowed on us by the Father that everyone can see.

8. They want a man who is kind.

Really? Is that true? Do women really expect that from us when we work so hard and do our best, then something happens to mess everything up? Yes. Galatians 5:22-23 tells us,

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

This doesn’t tell us just to be kind to our wives, this is telling us to be kind to everyone all the time. It should be ingrained in our character.

9. They want a man who will be the Spiritual leader of the family.

This is not a new concept. 1 Corinthians 11:3 tells us,

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

10. They want a man who is faithful.

Man can be unfaithful to his wife and family in ways other than the conventional definition of adultery. It also includes all forms of pornography as I discussed in the blog, The

“Harmless Vice”

. Men, we must be vigilant in protecting our hearts and minds from the sexual distractions of this world.

That is difficult in our modern society, but that doesn’t give us any excuse to be engaged in sin.

We are to turn our backs on women that cross our paths and turn our heads. We are told in scripture to flee such temptations, and flee we must. Such attractions are too powerful to flirt with.

Remember men—guard your hearts and do not give Satan an opportunity to gain a foothold into your home, your family, your marriage. It really is up to you.