From the moment the doctor says, “It’s a girl!” we fathers witness the surfacing of a phenomenon that was placed within us by God.
The emotions that appear seemingly from nowhere include an innate sense of protection, love, and awe that we fathered a daughter into the world. But it is much more than that.
There are wonderful but different senses that accompany the birth of a son, but that’s a topic for another blog. Dads of girls understand the “daughter phenomenon.”
Since dads are men, and men were boys, we know what’s on most boys’ minds. Girls don’t know what’s on most boys’ minds until they’re older, and then they’re shocked. They just think those guys flitting about with grins on their faces are nice and cute and friendly. Right.
We dads will protect our daughters at any cost . . . any cost. That means we will fight for them, sacrifice for them, hover over them which at times incurs their displeasure, and if necessary, go to jail for them. I have been known to pull a 9mm semi-auto, and even a shortened (slang for sawed-off) shotgun on a few unsuspecting fellows, but I never shot one . . . not that anyone can prove.
So God put us in charge of our daughters until such a time when we can offer their hand in marriage to someone we trust. That isn’t as difficult to do as it sounds as long as the guy is one you know will take care of her properly.
So here are some questions to ask about the young man she wants to marry. It’s not only fair to ask questions, it’s your job as dad to do so. But more importantly, teach your daughter what to look for in a man and to ask herself these critical questions about him. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give her.
This is not an exclusive list of important questions, but it does include critical issues. When that day comes to place her hand in the hand of another man, make sure you’ve done your homework and prepared your daughter for the rest of her life.
She will thank you for it one day, and she’ll forgive you for pulling out the shotgun when it was needed. Really . . . she will. She did.